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The only way you can decrease your odds is be a mind reader. What behavior, clothing, physical feature, etc etc will set off the rapist and have them pick you for a target?I don't think sexy clothes causes men to rape women.
I DO think sexy clothes will increase the likelihood of male attention, and thus, increase odds of possible unwanted attention - you would really have to look at a study/statistics to see, but, I think it's more a matter of the position you put yourself in (area, character of people etc.)
There is no way you can prevent being raped unless you are in solitary confinement - but I think there are things you can do to DECREASE your odds......
Even in solitary you would have to worry about the prison guards.I don't think sexy clothes causes men to rape women.
I DO think sexy clothes will increase the likelihood of male attention, and thus, increase odds of possible unwanted attention - you would really have to look at a study/statistics to see, but, I think it's more a matter of the position you put yourself in (area, character of people etc.)
There is no way you can prevent being raped unless you are in solitary confinement - but I think there are things you can do to DECREASE your odds......
I'm confused as to what made the the author not recognize that all those reasons are about power and control over women no matter what the rapist wants to call it? People will make up every rationale to explain their behavior away and very few have the insight to look at their behavior for what it is. Normal people dont just say "I want to have sex so the next person I see will be forced to have sex with me" and it not be about power and control.I found this to be interesting.... I think everyone in this thread would find it to be also....
Why do rapists rape? For power or sex? Let’s ask a rapist!
1. Muchoki, S.M. and S. Wandibba, An Interplay of Individual Motivations and Sociocultural Factors Predisposing Men to Acts of Rape in Kenya. International Journal of Sexual Health, 2009.
I'm confused as to what made the the author not recognize that all those reasons are about power and control over women no matter what the rapist wants to call it? People will make up every rationale to explain their behavior away and very few have the insight to look at their behavior for what it is. Normal people dont just say "I want to have sex so the next person I see will be forced to have sex with me" and it not be about power and control.I found this to be interesting.... I think everyone in this thread would find it to be also....
Why do rapists rape? For power or sex? Let’s ask a rapist!
1. Muchoki, S.M. and S. Wandibba, An Interplay of Individual Motivations and Sociocultural Factors Predisposing Men to Acts of Rape in Kenya. International Journal of Sexual Health, 2009.
Women should weigh 300 lbs, walk around with bags over their heads, and never shower or wear clean clothes, to reduce their chances of unwanted sexual advances.Let's go to the OP topic....
Women should dress modestly or expect to 'entice a rapist...'
Overall, I disagree with this statement.
I don't think you will necessarily "entice a rapist" and modest dress is a matter of opinion.
Different things entice rapists.
I would say the following would be more correct:
Women should dress modestly to reduce their chances of unwanted sexual advances.
Is that fair/accurate?
Even that statement is not really correct. Your modest may not be the same as my modest or the modest of a rapist. If I were to make a statement it would be more like.Let's go to the OP topic....
Women should dress modestly or expect to 'entice a rapist...'
Overall, I disagree with this statement.
I don't think you will necessarily "entice a rapist" and modest dress is a matter of opinion.
Different things entice rapists.
I would say the following would be more correct:
Women should dress modestly to reduce their chances of unwanted sexual advances.
Is that fair/accurate?
Women should weigh 300 lbs, walk around with bags over their heads, and never shower or wear clean clothes, to reduce their chances of unwanted sexual advances.Let's go to the OP topic....
Women should dress modestly or expect to 'entice a rapist...'
Overall, I disagree with this statement.
I don't think you will necessarily "entice a rapist" and modest dress is a matter of opinion.
Different things entice rapists.
I would say the following would be more correct:
Women should dress modestly to reduce their chances of unwanted sexual advances.
Is that fair/accurate?
Why do you think men rape drunk women? Is it because they look so sexy all drunk and slobbering all over themselves? NO! It is because they are an EASY target. They aren't going to be putting up much of a fight.
Yep, there's that absolutism that I referred to more than once, the one that regularly renders communication useless.So you read all that and assumed I was only talking about "rapists".I'll try to make this as clear and parsed as I can so that you can't distort it.No it isn't. You just won't be honest.
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Yes . . . it is. And if not, then what is your point?
If a woman wears clothing that might be considered sexy or provocative by some guy, any guy, the chances of something happening that she doesn't want have increased by some measure, even if it's 0.1%. "Something that she doesn't want" could be some slob coming on too strong, some sick asshole thinking "she's asking for it", you name it. Or it could lead to a sexual encounter that is perceived by the man as consensual but NOT considered consensual by the woman. Which, as any honest person will admit, does happen.
It would therefore be in the woman's best interests to simply consider that fact when deciding what she's going to wear, where she is going to go, and with whom she is going to go. No, it shouldn't be that way, it's a goddamn shame, but it's better to deal with reality than to see the worst happen. It only needs to happen once.
If that isn't clear enough for you, there's nothing else I can do.
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And I will try to make THIS as clear as possible for you. It does NOT matter what you are wearing. Rapists are looking for a victim and rape is a crime of opportunity. Rapists are SICK people. Some of them ARE actually turned on by a more conservative appearing woman, and THAT is why conservatively dressed women are ALSO raped.
Okay, never mind. Somehow I knew I was wasting my time.
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That is what we are discussing. Rape. And again, you are wrong. You might as well tell women to stop all social interaction with men because one of them might decide to rape her.
You know, in my younger years, i spent my share of time in strip clubs, in parked cars with my dates, even a nude beach. The sight of a nude, or semi-nude woman never motivated me to even THINK of rape. I did think of getting laid, but raping someone never occurred to me in my entire life. Yet, there are men here who think that erotica could motivate men to rape. This way of thinking is so foreign to me that I am blown away by it. Quite frankly, it tells me a whole lot about the men who hold that position. I hope to god that none of you know my daughter.
Exactly. I remember as a teenager I was over this girls house and she literally asked me to have sex with her but she was shaking like a leaf in the wind. I told her we didnt have to do anything even though my sex drive was saying something different. To me its a big gigantic turnoff if a woman is not ready.You know, in my younger years, i spent my share of time in strip clubs, in parked cars with my dates, even a nude beach. The sight of a nude, or semi-nude woman never motivated me to even THINK of rape. I did think of getting laid, but raping someone never occurred to me in my entire life. Yet, there are men here who think that erotica could motivate men to rape. This way of thinking is so foreign to me that I am blown away by it. Quite frankly, it tells me a whole lot about the men who hold that position. I hope to god that none of you know my daughter.
They have to know at some level. It's fascinating to observe, but you can't communicate with people who refuse to be honest.The sad thing is that you will teach people that a woman can prevent rape by modifying her appearance while history shows that that is not the case.
He has not said that attire will "prevent" rape, that is just your warped interpretation.
What he and others have been saying, is that dressing provocatively can draw the kind of attention you may not want. Not guaranteed to get attention, but it can.
WHY IS THIS SO FUCKING HARD FOR YOU GUYS ?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There is something about this topic that invites people to abandon common sense and the simple application of caution they would recognition in any other context. And only in the instance of rape prevention have some laughably claimed that taking precautions is 'excusing' lawbreakers.
Oddly, no one insists you're 'excusing burglars' if you lock your doors at night. Or 'excusing muggers' if you look over your shoulder in a dark alley.
I said this in post 333: "There is rape -- which, as I understand it, is essentially as it is portrayed by those here who are against what Hynde said -- and then there is the relatively long list of bad stuff that can happen when a guy gets too drunk and excited and horny -- some of which, by the way, could be construed as rape by some."
These people are choosing to remain locked in this binary argument: There is only one kind of rape, there is only one kind of rapist, rape only happens for one reason, there is only one environment in which an act can be interpreted as rape, rape only has one meaning every time. They leave no room for gray area or interpretation, which is precisely what would be needed in the real world if a young lady brought a rape charge. They are being absolutely absolutist. It's like trying to discuss taxes with a Tea Partier.
It amazes me, how similar the two ends are. I don't know how to deal with absolutists.
They have to know better, they're doing this on purpose, they're not being honest. Par for the course for the PC Police.
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No, what people are trying to explain to you is that it does not matter WHAT THE HECK you are wearing. You will STILL get raped if there is a rapist in the room who decides he wants to rape you. It could be your hair color, your perfume, that you remind him of someone, etc., etc., etc.
So, women should no longer wear sexy clothes because we should fear that this would cause us to be raped??? That's ridiculous.
Ok, there's a rapist in the room. You're wearing a very short skirt and sheer blouse that exposes a very sexy bra. You act flirty and are drinking.
There's another woman in the room with very conservative attire and is speaking and acting in a very conservative and modest fashion.
Both leave the room and go their separate ways.
Who is the rapist more likely to follow ?
They have to know at some level. It's fascinating to observe, but you can't communicate with people who refuse to be honest.There is something about this topic that invites people to abandon common sense and the simple application of caution they would recognition in any other context. And only in the instance of rape prevention have some laughably claimed that taking precautions is 'excusing' lawbreakers.
Oddly, no one insists you're 'excusing burglars' if you lock your doors at night. Or 'excusing muggers' if you look over your shoulder in a dark alley.
I said this in post 333: "There is rape -- which, as I understand it, is essentially as it is portrayed by those here who are against what Hynde said -- and then there is the relatively long list of bad stuff that can happen when a guy gets too drunk and excited and horny -- some of which, by the way, could be construed as rape by some."
These people are choosing to remain locked in this binary argument: There is only one kind of rape, there is only one kind of rapist, rape only happens for one reason, there is only one environment in which an act can be interpreted as rape, rape only has one meaning every time. They leave no room for gray area or interpretation, which is precisely what would be needed in the real world if a young lady brought a rape charge. They are being absolutely absolutist. It's like trying to discuss taxes with a Tea Partier.
It amazes me, how similar the two ends are. I don't know how to deal with absolutists.
They have to know better, they're doing this on purpose, they're not being honest. Par for the course for the PC Police.
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No, what people are trying to explain to you is that it does not matter WHAT THE HECK you are wearing. You will STILL get raped if there is a rapist in the room who decides he wants to rape you. It could be your hair color, your perfume, that you remind him of someone, etc., etc., etc.
So, women should no longer wear sexy clothes because we should fear that this would cause us to be raped??? That's ridiculous.
Ok, there's a rapist in the room. You're wearing a very short skirt and sheer blouse that exposes a very sexy bra. You act flirty and are drinking.
There's another woman in the room with very conservative attire and is speaking and acting in a very conservative and modest fashion.
Both leave the room and go their separate ways.
Who is the rapist more likely to follow ?
A rapist would sometimes probably AVOID the loud-mouthed drunk girl who is making a scene. The quiet demure shy woman might be the bigger turn on for HIM. Rape is USUALLY a crime of opportunity. They really are NOT that choosy in most instances. They are seeking out a VICTIM.
The provocatively dressed woman will get more attention from someone seeking sexual gratification.
You can be sexy and attractive in different ways.
Some project an image of class, some, not so much.....
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Rape is not about sexual gratification. Its about power.They have to know at some level. It's fascinating to observe, but you can't communicate with people who refuse to be honest.
I said this in post 333: "There is rape -- which, as I understand it, is essentially as it is portrayed by those here who are against what Hynde said -- and then there is the relatively long list of bad stuff that can happen when a guy gets too drunk and excited and horny -- some of which, by the way, could be construed as rape by some."
These people are choosing to remain locked in this binary argument: There is only one kind of rape, there is only one kind of rapist, rape only happens for one reason, there is only one environment in which an act can be interpreted as rape, rape only has one meaning every time. They leave no room for gray area or interpretation, which is precisely what would be needed in the real world if a young lady brought a rape charge. They are being absolutely absolutist. It's like trying to discuss taxes with a Tea Partier.
It amazes me, how similar the two ends are. I don't know how to deal with absolutists.
They have to know better, they're doing this on purpose, they're not being honest. Par for the course for the PC Police.
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No, what people are trying to explain to you is that it does not matter WHAT THE HECK you are wearing. You will STILL get raped if there is a rapist in the room who decides he wants to rape you. It could be your hair color, your perfume, that you remind him of someone, etc., etc., etc.
So, women should no longer wear sexy clothes because we should fear that this would cause us to be raped??? That's ridiculous.
Ok, there's a rapist in the room. You're wearing a very short skirt and sheer blouse that exposes a very sexy bra. You act flirty and are drinking.
There's another woman in the room with very conservative attire and is speaking and acting in a very conservative and modest fashion.
Both leave the room and go their separate ways.
Who is the rapist more likely to follow ?
A rapist would sometimes probably AVOID the loud-mouthed drunk girl who is making a scene. The quiet demure shy woman might be the bigger turn on for HIM. Rape is USUALLY a crime of opportunity. They really are NOT that choosy in most instances. They are seeking out a VICTIM.
The provocatively dressed woman will get more attention from someone seeking sexual gratification.