Andylusion
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Nah. I disagree with your conclusion. If you put yourself in a compromising situation, you are more likely to do something wrong.
Why do you think the saying "he got in with the wrong crowd" came from? I knew a guy who got in with a bunch of others that were into drugs, and the first thing he did after getting released from prison, was to move to a new location and cut off ties with those people. Because even he himself knew that if he kept hanging around those people, he'd be back into the drug culture.
I knew another guy that was hanging with the wrong people, and one day they started vandalizing homes. After the police caught them, the first thing he did was cut off these people from his life, because he knew they would do it again... and they did, but the next time he wasn't with them.
Putting yourself in a compromising situation drastically increases the chances of you doing something wrong.
What's funny is that typically people understand that with their kids. You see kids acting crazy, and into bad things, you tend to move your kids elsewhere, to limit their exposure to those bad influence.
Yet for some stupid reason, when people get older, we have this pseudo super-man complex where, you think outside influence can no longer corrupt. You are crazy if you think that.
Gotta be honest... that's a bad line of thinking.
I mean I get what you saying. If a man intends to cheat, he's going to cheat. But many men just get sucked into a bad situation, because they didn't have proper boundaries for their lives.
Meeting with a member of the opposite sex in a business setting during the day is not a compromising situation, it is and should be a normal. The mindset that such a thing is a problem, is the problem.
As I stated above, I am on occasion in a car with a female co-worker for up to 2 hours one way for work related activities. Should I tell my boss I will only go with another man even though the female is the expert on the commodity we are dealing with? That makes no sense. The idea that a man and a woman cannot do business without fucking each other harkens back to the days when women were rare in the work place. It is time to rise ourselves above such caveman like thinking.
Kids and teenager's brains are not fully developed, they lack impulse control. Most people when they become adults have out grown that problem.
If I felt it necessary would do that. I would rather change jobs, than changing wives, because I ended up in an affair.
You say that is not necessary for you. Great. Not all men are you. Most men have a pretty powerful sex drive. Perhaps you don't. That's fine.