Ray From Cleveland
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I'm sorry to hear that.True story:
When we were teens, a friend of mine got in trouble with a girl, so they ran off to Florida. They did fine for a few months, but eventually the cops caught up with them because they were both under age. They were sent back to Ohio and had the intention of getting married. Suddenly, she decided she didn't want the baby.
My friend said he would gladly take his baby and ask nothing of her in way of support, but she refused to give the baby to him. It went to court and was fought for months. In the meantime, he was courting my sister and they got engaged. My sister told the court that after they got married, she would be willing to take the baby and raise it herself.
After a lot of fighting and a lot of money spent, the court decided that the mother had the right to have children services put the baby up for adoption. So the bailiff took his son from his arms in the court room and that was the last time he held him.
At the very least, a father should have the same rights as the mother.
It had a happy ending I guess you could say. This happened back in the mid 70's, and about five years ago, my now ex brother-in-law did a search to see if he could find his long lost son on the internet, and he found him. In fact, his son was living in the same town as him and was a writer for their local newspaper.
He wanted to explain to his son exactly what happened so he didn't go through life wondering why he was thrown into adoption. The people that raised him didn't tell him anything about being adopted until he was in his 20's. Imagine that shock. And the only reason the mother said anything is because she got really pissed at him and wanted to inflict pain.
When he found him, his son was married for several years and my ex brother-in-law got to meet his grandchildren. They now stay in contact and he posts pictures of his son, my niece and nephew on Face Book all the time.