Ok, let's see if I can squeeze any sense out of this.I hear what you're saying, but here "it is about cause and effect, action and consequence." you seem to be still talking about a god that's needy and wants to be obeyed.
It may seem that way to you but, if you had a child and you said "do not touch the stove or you will burn your finger" would you say it because you were needy and wanted to be obeyed?
If the child did not listen and touched the stove and burned his finger would it be a punishment from you?
So you're saying that god himself tells you what not to do? And if you disobey he'll make sure you get burned?
Because if it were my kid, I'd stop him from getting burned, whether he understood or not.
Only someone who never raised a child to adulthood would say something like that.